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Table Of Contents

 

Foreword by Benedict Groeschel, C.F.R.

 

Chapter One:

We Were Made for Love

Some initial thoughts

The God who is Love made us in his image

How are people united?

The different ways we use the word "love"

Emotional love vs. Intentional love

What is behind emotional love

"Need love"

"Appreciative love"

"Gift love"

What is behind intentional love

Intentional love arising from a sense of duty

Intentional love arising from the desire to be

and become more

Love as "acceptance"

Why people stay together

Fulfilling the duties of a relationship

Fulfilling people's hope

Questions for philosophical consideration and

personal growth

 

Chapter Two:

A First Look at Friendship

Some things that look like friendship

but are not

The people who "happen to be in our lives"

Companionship

From antiquity to modern times -

Six authors' thoughts on friendship

Aristotle - the importance of virtue

Cicero - loyalty sprung from virtue and

mutual agreement

St. Augustine - God's love perfects and

transforms our friendships

St. Aelred of Rievaulx - distinguishing

real from false friendships

Michel de Montaigne-the experience of union

C.S. Lewis-friends are joined by a

common interest

Recurring themes

Questions for philosophical consideration

and personal growth

 

Chapter Three:

The Love that is Friendship

A popular topic

What genuine friends pursue when

pursuing friendship

What makes people friends?

Friends let each other into their personal life,

creating the experience of intimacy

The importance of character strength and virtue

People differ in their capacity for friendship

Jared and Ray

Dustin, Molly, and Jennifer

Virtue by itself is not friendship

Friends are mutually interested in each other

Friends have things they enjoy doing together

The commitment of genuine friendship prepares

one for marriage

What kind of a friend or spouse am I?

How do I relate in a given relationship?

Relationships take time to develop

The Initiating Phase

The Deepening Phase

The Abiding Phase

Questions for philosophical consideration and

personal growth

 

Chapter Four:

Friendship Experienced as a Culture of Love

How friendship is experienced: A culture is

created-a culture of love

Effectively communicating our love

The different levels of friendship

The sympathy of friendship

The "Four Loves"

Affection

Eros

Friendship

Charity

How the different loves relate to one another

Affection and friendship

Affection, friendship, and charity

Eros, affection, friendship, and charity

Creating a culture of love includes generously

giving the gift of ourselves

Experiencing generosity and the effect it has

on us

The benefit that comes to us when we see

generosity in others

Friendships between men and women

Male-Female interaction in general

Discerning an ethic

Friendship and evangelization

Questions for philosophical consideration and

personal growth

 

Chapter Five:

The Intimacy of Friendship

What is intimacy?

How does intimacy develop?

Nobility of life is required for intimacy

Honesty

Loyalty

Sharing each others' sorrows and joys

The pursuit of generous loving is more of a

process than a goal

Six college seniors - an illustration

Increased self-understanding increases the

capacity for intimacy

Questions for philosophical consideration and

personal growth

 

Chapter Six:

Intimacy between Men and Women

The love between the sexes

Love creates expectations

Real love is more than a feeling

The developing relationship - from dating

to marriage

Alex and Bonnie: a relationship between high

school students

Sherry and Vince: a serious relationship

between two people in college

Brooklyn and Cooper: an engaged couple

Communicating our love

Through things that are said and the way they

are received

By the way people look at each other

Through touching

Through sharing meals together

Through the making and keeping of promises

and commitments

Through giving gifts and loving deeds

Through spending quality time with each other

Through doing things together

uniqueness of sexual intimacy and its

connection with marriage

The language of the body

What is meant by lust?

Couples considering marriage need a common

vision of life

Communicating and experiencing marital love

Kevin and Madelyn: a married couple with

young children

Keith and Sylvia: marriage in the later years

A multifaceted diamond

Questions for philosophical consideration and

personal growth

 

Chapter Seven:

Intimate Friendship with God

The God who made us and redeemed us also

desires our friendship

Friendship with God is similar to, and different

from other intimate relationships

Mutual interest in one another

Virtue and character strength

Favorite things done together

Communicating our intimate love for God

Through things that are said

By the way we look at each other

Through touching

Through sharing meals together

Through the making and keeping of

promises and commitments

Through giving gifts and loving deeds

Through spending quality time with each other

Through doing things together

Modeling our life on the Paschal Mystery

The effect God's friendship has on our life

Father Walter J. Ciszek: abandonment to

the Will of God - in the Gulag

Experiencing intimacy with God

Mount Tabor and the Transfiguration

Mother Teresa of Calcutta: Her experience

of the "dark night of the soul"

Pressing the issue and drawing some

conclusions

Questions for philosophical consideration and

personal growth

 

Chapter Eight:

Putting It All Together

The loves "learn" from each other

What hinders us from loving heroically?

The "divorce mentality"

Tools for generous (and even heroic) loving

Virtuous living in general

Forgiveness

Loving well requires effort on our part

One last look

Making and keeping friends

Happy marriage

Developing a friendship with God

Intimacy in the Kingdom of Heaven

Questions for philosophical consideration

and personal growth

 

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